The Weekend in review or the Cold Shoulder
January 25, 2011 kimbershome
The weekend was uneventful in that there wasn’t any time to discuss real life issues. We didn’t have the girls but we had Antonio and so I left him alone to spend time with his son. I took our next door neighbor out to Short Pump Town Center to get her out of the house. We had lunch at Baker’s Crust. Delicious. I am very concerned about her short-term memory. We can only do so much to care for her when she forgets the basics on a daily basis. She too is concerned and so sooner rather than later we will need to look into assisted living for her.
I was going to put applications in at a couple of other places but decided no. I can’t do it. There is just no way I can work a second job while my husband sits at home and does nothing. So I didn’t. Instead I hung out in the cold giving them bonding time and me time to myself. I went to B&N and that is usually my relaxing station but it was just too busy and so I left fairly quickly and headed to my sister’s to pick up Sydney. In short order we were back at home and I spent the evening in the bedroom reading and flipping channels while he sat on the couch in the family room watching TV and doing stuff on the computer.
Syd and I went to church on Sunday. He cooked breakfast for us and had it waiting when we got home. He’s trying to be attentive and I don’t know how to take it. I did see that he looked through the classifieds and was on a few job searching sites but nothing has been said between us about his situation. Saturday I did tell him I was still looking for a part-time job, where I had applied and places I was thinking of going while I was out. No response from him yet again. He worked Sunday evening for four whole hours and came home griping about that. I find it hard to be sympathetic when he complains because in my mind it’s such a piddly job that it doesn’t make any sense to get so wrapped up in something you don’t have any real investment in.
Monday we awoke to a cold house. We had run out of oil. I couldn’t understand how since we had just gotten a load less than three weeks ago to the tune of $332 only to find out he had been turning the heat up at night while we slept to 70 and 71 degrees. OMG I was furious. So we don’t have the washer, now we don’t have heat or hot water. We had to switch back to the hot water heater and use space heaters for now. I can order more oil on next Monday after I’ve paid off this balance. Prayerfully it won’t be too cold this week.
For all intents and purposes I’m still trying to work it out and make things work in the marriage. I have to give it my best shot and put a little more energy behind working things out with him; communicating although it seems to fall on deaf ears. Once I know I’ve given it my all then I can explore other options but right now I’ve just been avoiding things not really dealing with them and I need to sit down and be honest and frank with him about how I feel and what I expect. Once I’ve done that if nothing changes then I’ll feel like I have the right to say enough is enough cut my losses and move forward. He’s not working Thursday to Sunday so I’m sure I can find time during those few days to talk with him.
Entry Filed under: life, my thoughts, the journey and tagged: cold shoulder, communication, finding a job, husband, second job, work
